Parenting advice

I was reading a book on how to deal with your five-year-old in an attempt to get a good idea, when I came across a paragraph on discipline. It said that discipline (punishment) should be only reserved for behaviors that (1) threaten physical harm, (2) destroy or threaten to destroy property, or (3) annoy you beyond a reasonable amount. So, I thought, what actions (especially if you add "mental" or "emotional" to physical harm) would be left out of this? Most behavior in our home during the day seem to fall into one of these three categories. I finished the book and decided my five-year-old was not one of their typical five-year-olds; there didn't seem to be much help there. Good parenting book suggestions are always welcome